The Telling that Changes Everything IV.
Christmas Day, December 25, 2011
Humor is essential when you balance
on that edge between justice and mercy.
Nothing I hate more than to see people
mistreated, but I learn that the villains
have their moments of terror, too. Rage
can blindside any of us–no matter how
watchful we are, how self-aware and
enlightened. Yet we have no choice
but to re-find our equilibrium, consider
the culprit’s ancient dread, hold firm
to what is right, but smile and forgive.
A tough act to follow. Only those who
see clearly, who have taken the beam
out of their own eyes can do it. It’s
called healing, and it doesn’t make
you popular. Your stern side is
scarifying. They want absolution
before they confess their faults.
Not possible, and anyway, the first
essential, if you want to change,
is to forgive yourself. Learn how.
Unresolved guilt compounds itself
and leads to more and more cruelty.
There’s no substitute for honesty
at exactly the right time and place.
Not too soon, not too late. How do
we know the moment has arrived?
That’s when watchfulness pays off.
A space opens suddenly, and we see
the path straight into the rascal’s
soul. In the meantime, we always
have work in front of us. People
need our clarity, our joy, how we do
a stake-out to catch the errant heart
when it suddenly opens wide.
Judy Hogan, Moncure, N.C.